by Dan Duffy, Survivor, Advocate, Author
“I cheated with my cancer.”
A friend of mine said that to me once, feeling that she somehow didn’t really go through cancer because hers was caught so early, with no chemo or radiation necessary.
“So the double mastectomy doesn’t count?” I asked, needling her. (Cancer patients can do this to each other.)
by Marlene and Bob Neufeld
Studies have demonstrated increased survival for married people diagnosed with cancer over single people. On the other hand, a cancer diagnosis can be emotionally hard on both the person with the diagnosis and the spouse, as well as threaten the relationship. Any unresolved patterns or issues between couples will be exacerbated by stress, and a cancer diagnosis is a huge stress.
We are a couple who work as a therapist team helping couples create closer loving connections. One of the important ways couples connect is through their sexuality. When Bob was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2006 we used all the skills we taught other couples to ensure that our sexual relationship stayed strong throughout the cancer journey.
by Rob Harris, Caregiver
Early in my journey as a Caregiver Advocate, I was interviewed for an article being written for MSNBCTodayShow.com. Though I was flattered by the request, I was surprised by the topic of the piece. The reporter focused on men that dump their spouses and partners once they learn their mate has been diagnosed with cancer.
I had spoken to many caregivers prior to that request. Never had I encountered a “runner.” Apparently I was naive. I was also shocked. I couldn’t believe that someone would abandon their loved one in their greatest time of need. The thought of it really bothered me.